{"id":6704,"date":"2015-07-23T00:52:43","date_gmt":"2015-07-23T07:52:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/BigJimIndustries.com\/wordpress\/?p=6704"},"modified":"2015-08-15T00:59:55","modified_gmt":"2015-08-15T07:59:55","slug":"wisdom-from-jim-la-pierre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bigjimindustries.com\/wordpress\/2015\/07\/23\/wisdom-from-jim-la-pierre\/","title":{"rendered":"Wisdom from Jim La Pierre"},"content":{"rendered":"

from Recovery Rocks @ The Bangor Daily News<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

How to be Better Healers & Helpers<\/h1>\n

By Jim LaPierre<\/a><\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve never liked being viewed as an expert but I do enjoy being interviewed by students. To those training in the healing and helping professions, I\u2019m a cool old guy who has been doing this stuff since the nineties, which to most of them was a long ago period involving playgrounds.<\/p>\n

I got to spend some time with an especially lovely student recently. He\u2019s so young, handsome, anxious to learn and to get things right. We could have spent all day talking without running out of things to say. After he left I remembered an email interview I did with another student last semester that includes a lot of advice I wanted to share with him and to all who seek to serve others (brand new or otherwise):<\/p>\n

Please know that you are supposed to be scared shitless every time you start something new. I wish someone had told me that it\u2019s okay to be scared. For future reference, everything you feel is okay. It\u2019s how you deal with it that matters. Don\u2019t. Do. It. Alone. Enjoy brief periods of solitude. Beyond that, what you need to do alone should be limited to things that occur in a bathroom.<\/p>\n

Journal, blog, write. Even if it\u2019s bad poetry, write.<\/p>\n

Take time off frequently. Burn out is a constant threat that deserves your respect.<\/p>\n

Go to therapy. Always go to therapy. Before, during, and after, go to therapy.<\/p>\n

Develop kick ass self care plans and actually do them \u2013 not just nice ideas with good intentions- things you habitually do.<\/p>\n

Cope. You bear witness to suffering and you must not absorb it. Learn how to stand by the fire without getting burned. Empty yourself of what you inevitably internalize \u2013 the imagery, the painful words, and the sound of gut wrenching sobs \u2013 empty it all in writing, with colleagues, in art, in prayer. Empty it.<\/p>\n

Learn from every person you ever serve.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t focus on text books or self help books. Read the Tao Te Ching. Read Marianne Williamson, Mary Pipher, Brenee Brown, James Frey, and Tom Robbins, Read the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and everything Narcotics Anonymous has ever published. Collect stories from your clients\u2019 healing and pass them along as inspiration to others.<\/p>\n

Discover what each individual is passionate about. Learn about them on their terms and in their language. Honor whatever they believe and help them utilize their beliefs as a means of healing.<\/p>\n

Speak powerfully. Never speak like a social worker. If something fucking sucks, don\u2019t refer to it as a \u201cchallenge.\u201d Call a spade a spade.<\/p>\n

Hug people. People need hugs.<\/p>\n

[ click to read full piece at Recovery Rocks<\/a> ]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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